Getting to the Daddy Dom Little Girl Paradigm
To be honest, I had no expectation of any involvement in a Daddy Dom Little Girl relationship. In fact, when I first began the relationship with my little girl, I was not a Daddy Dom. She certainly would not have called herself a little girl. The dynamic was a pretty normal Dom/sub situation if you can call that normal. We were quite content. She, exploring new opportunities in the BDSM world. And me, an experienced Dominant, not really looking for any kind of relationship at the time.
Over time, as we journeyed together, learning each other, our discussions covered a range of BDSM topics as she questioned. I answered to the best of my ability. As I recall, and at my age recollection can be a little sketchy, we were talking about infantilism. I happened to mention DDlg relationships. her interest and attraction to the whole idea grew rapidly.
The more we discussed the DDlg dynamic, her interest became more apparent. Her interest in the DDlg relationships soon became apparent. As I was to learn, she had been reading and researching all the time. I suspect that she knows as much or more about the DDlg dynamic as I do.
A New Learning Experience
This knowledge puts me in a position where I need to get my act in order. If we were heading in this direction, I must sort out my understanding and figure out where I stood as a Dominant. That was the genesis of my DDlg philosophy and beliefs.
Over the course of the past few years, I have worked with, revised, thought about, and carefully considered my situation. My thoughts, beliefs, and position as a Daddy Dom to a beautiful and sexy little girl have crystalized into an understandable belief. As it stands at this point in time, this is the foundation of my philosophy as a Daddy Dom.
What Daddy Dom Little Girl is Not!
The first thing I want to make very clear is that the DDlg paradigm has nothing to do with infantilism. No long-drawn-out discussions about the various psychological differentiations between infantilism and a DDlg relationship will help. I will say that a DDlg relationship very rarely involves wearing diapers, adult sized baby clothing, furniture, or accessories. I speak here only for myself. There is nothing of infantilism in my DDlg relationship.
Then What is A Daddy Dom Little Girl Relationship?
My little girl doesn’t wear diapers, dress like an infant, play with adult size baby toys, nor do I treat her like an infant. On the contrary, she is a beautiful, sexy woman. There is nothing infantile about the way she dresses or acts during any part of our relationship. With the exception of her endearing need to call me Daddy, that is as close to infantilism as we get.
This prompts the question, what makes this DDlg relationship different than any other BDSM relationship? The major difference, in my estimation, is in attitudes and outlooks. I involvement in traditional Dom/sub relationships goes back years. What I was to learn is that the DDlg dynamic is quite different, at least for us, than that which exists between a traditional Dom/sub.
The Differences and the Similarities
Dominant and submissive relationships can range from what I term the playful to the other extreme. The extremes are characterized by the 24/7 Master/slave style of relationship. As you can imagine, this encompasses a huge range of possibilities. The typical Dom/sub relationship puts the Dominant squarely in a superior position by its very definition. Even in the most relaxed and easy-going of Dom/sub relationships there is a definitive demarcation of roles.
These marked role relationships tend to become blurred in a DDlg relationship. Even in those DDlg relationships where BDSM is a major component, the interpersonal roles are less formal and less structured. This creates an entirely different attitude and atmosphere in these DDlg relationships. There is, I believe, a much more collaborative atmosphere among these couples. This is almost 180 degrees away from a much more strictly defined Dom/sub relationship. This difference heavily affects the interplay in the relationship.
In my opinion, DDlg relationships are more relaxed, less subject to protocol. The inter-dynamic roles are more apt to be partnerships rather than the typical separation that marks a DOM/sub pair. The best analogy I can find is that a DDlg relationship is much more familial than the typical Dom/sub relationship. These traditional Dom/sub roles tend to be more one sided, especially in the more extreme incarnations.
How it all Affected Me
What does this mean for me? It means a more relaxed atmosphere more of the time. Lacking many of the protocols demanded by some Dominants in a Dom/sub relationship, There is less pressure on the DD to manage every aspect of the relationship. This does not mean that the DD does not set the tone for the relationship or that the DD does not exercise some form or level of control of even the smallest parts of his lg’s life. The difference is in how he performs these responsibilities.
Daddy Dom’s, in my opinion, don’t manifest the strict controlling Master or Dominant role. Daddy Dom’s, I believe, express a role that is far more emotionally inclusive than a traditional Master/slave or Dom/sub. I think an understanding of the differences in what is expected by little girls and submissives.
While many little girls may express deep submissives tendencies, the more important aspect of their needs are the emotional support and bonds that they form with their Daddy Dom. Many of us believe that it is this desire for the deep emotional ties that drives the DDlg relationship, even if there are overtones of BDSM.
So, I Have Come to Believe
With this in mind, It is my belief that the role of Daddy Dom should be characterized by a high level of empathy for the little girls emotional and physical state. I can’t emphasize enough that I am convinced that the little in the DDlg relationship develops a deep emotional dependence on her DD that has to be considered in every part of the relationship. From the mundane day -to-day activities in every relationship, to the most extreme BDSM activities that are involved in some DDlg relationships, the emotional attachment of the lg to the DD has to a major consideration in planning and conducting activities in the relationship.
A DDlg relationship can be satisfying and very deep. There can be rewarding emotional results as well as deep and abiding love between the little and her DD and vice versa. I have found it to be quite to my liking and one of the happiest periods of my life.
What a perfect explanation! <3